i'm gonna live longer i guess!! heheh

Pasangan kerap bertengkar panjang umur


LONDON: Ia mungkin kedengaran agak pelik, tetapi pasangan suami isteri digalakkan bertengkar kerana ia adalah rahsia panjang umur.

Penyelidik mendapati, suami isteri yang tidak membincangkan perbezaan pendapat dan memendam kemarahan antara satu sama lain berkemungkinan meninggal dunia lebih awal berbanding yang bergaduh.

Ia kerana cubaan menyelesaikan konflik - walaupun dalam tingkah laku menaikkan kemarahan - adalah lebih baik bagi kesihatan berbanding memendam perasaan.



Laporan akhbar Daily Mail menyebut, saintis mengkaji 192 pasangan selama 17 tahun dan meletakkan mereka dalam empat kategori.

Kumpulan pertama mengandungi pasangan suami isteri yang membincangkan kemarahan mereka dan kumpulan kedua diisi pasangan yang cuma suami menunjukkan kemarahan sebaliknya isteri memendam perasaan.

Kumpulan ketiga membabitkan pasangan yang cuma isteri menunjukkan kemarahan manakala kumpulan keempat mengandungi pasangan yang kedua-duanya memendam perasaan

Penyelidik mendapati kematian ketika tempoh kajian dua kali ganda berlaku dalam kumpulan terakhir berbanding kategori lain.

Aliran itu nyata walaupun faktor lain seperti usia, merokok, berat badan, tekanan darah, masalah bronkus dan risiko kardiovaskular diambil kira. Di kalangan 26 pasangan yang kedua-duanya memendam kemarahan, 13 kematian dicatatkan.

Bagaimanapun, dalam tiga kumpulan lagi membabitkan 166 pasangan, cuma gabungan 41 kematian dicatatkan.

Profesor Ernest Harburg dari Fakulti Kesihatan Awam Universiti Michigan, yang menjalankan kajian itu berkata: “Apabila pasangan bersama, salah satu tugas utama mereka ialah menyelesaikan konflik. Selalunya tiada siapa dilatih untuk berbuat demikian. Jika mereka mempunyai ibu bapa yang baik, mereka boleh mencontohi cara penyelesaian, itu tiada masalah. Namun selalunya pasangan tidak jahil mengenai proses menyelesaikan konflik.

“Kunci utama ialah apabila konflik berlaku, bagaimana anda menyelesaikannya? Apabila tidak berbuat demikian, jika anda memendam kemarahan, dan anda berfikir mendalam mengenainya dan anda marahkan orang lain, dan anda tidak cuba menyelesaikan masalah, memang anda ada masalah.” - Agensi



source: berita harian 27 january 2008

i think, i really gonna live long..yeehhheee.. ;-)

debts?

lately, i've been having difficulty to sleep. for hours ,i've tossed and turned on my bed,just blinking my eyes to the ceiling. there are so many things i've been thinking.my future planning, my financial, my family. its just mixing into one unsolved problem inside me. i'm torn whether to think of myself,my family, or my future husband...in a financial way..for me, i want to give the best to my mum first before i settled down. she's been suffering a lot, and to see her happiness would be the greatest feeling i will ever had. so, the problem arises when i cant really afford the large sum of money at once. i want to buy a car for my family by the time i graduated.and a house too (later on).in cash. that's the thing.as my principle is no loans with the bank ( i followed my mum in this one), so, i guess i have no way out unless i stick on a real string budget starting from this moment. but still i got a mere 2 years to struggle to make my dream come true. which means, i may have to sacrifice my travel plans with my friends and put my family first. but i've promised to tag along with them..hmmmm...in addition to that, my other half is pestering me to buy a car for me first. initially, i thought i would just stay in the ho's hostel which is located inside the hospital and ask my parents to take me home during the weekends...in that way, i wouldnt worry much about going to the hospital in wee hours of morning alone on top of saving lots of money...i seriously dont know what to do..and now, i dont feel like putting myself first...

a heart of a gold..or is it a golden heart? hehehhe

Big-hearted tycoon Syed Mokhtar honoured

PUTRAJAYA: His parents taught him to provide for the poor and destitute – and those are the values that have shaped billionaire Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar Albukhary's life philosophy until today.

His philanthropic values were nurtured from the age of 23 when he started a small business dealing in rice.

IT MEANS THAT ITS 34 YEARS TO MAKE HIM A BILLIONARE...

When he received his first monthly income of RM1,500, his mother had told him to donate half of it to the poor.


“So I kept half for my family while the other half was donated to 15 needy families in my village,” said Syed Mokhtar, 57, this year's recipient of the Tokoh Maal Hijrah.

THAT'S A REAL SACRIFICE!! I'M SURE NOT ALL CAN DO THAT. I DONT HAVE THE GUTS TO DO IT..THE GREED IN ME CONQUERS ALL!! OPPPPSSS...HEHEHEH

Proud moment: Syed Mokhtar’s wife Puan Sri Sharifah Zarah Albukhary admiring the Tokoh Maal Hijrah medal he received from the King in Putrajaya Thursday.
Not only have the same families benefited from the aid today, but also countless other organisations through the self-made tycoon's Albukhary Foundation.

Thanking his parents for instilling in him such values, Syed Mokhtar heeded Prime Minister Datuk Seri Abdullah Ahmad Badawi's suggestion that he donate the cash award of RM80,000 to his mother Sharifah Rokiah Syed Mohamed Rahmat.

“My father is no longer alive, so I will heed the Prime Minister's suggestion made this morning, to give the money to my mother,” he told a press conference after receiving the award from Yang di-Pertuan Agong Tuanku Mizan Zainal Abidin during the national-level Maal Hijrah celebration here yesterday.

The philanthropist was also awarded a certificate, medal and plaque.

From 1996 to 2006, his foundation has contributed almost RM1bil to charity.

WHOOOOOOAAAA!! THATS A DAMN BULK OF MONEY!! I WONDER HOW MUCH DOES HE HAS IN HIS BANK..HEHEHE

Syed Mokhtar's business interests, which range from trading to banking and port development, are spread throughout the world.

He has humanitarian projects in Asia and Africa, including rebuilding the lives of Afghan refugees, Pakistan's earthquake survivors and Indonesia's tsunami victims and is now working to establish an AIDS hospital in Uganda.

Among the foundation's initiatives are the Albukhary Tuition Programme for poor underachievers and the Albukhary Scholarship Programme for poor high achievers.

Meanwhile, Malaysia's first man in space, Dr Sheikh Muszaphar Shukor Sheikh Mustapha, was yesterday bestowed Negri Sembilan's Tokoh Maal Hijrah award.

The bachelor received his award from the Yang di-Pertuan Besar Tuanku Ja'afar Tuanku Abdul Rahman during the state-level celebration at the Seremban Municipal Council Hall.

“It is a privilege to be awarded the Tokoh Maal Hijrah title. I would like to express my gratitude to the state government for this honour,” he said.


i read this article this morning and honestly respected this man for his deed. i hope someday i could be like him...both in the selflessness and richness!! hehhehhe..
and from now on, HE'S MY IDOL!! :-) I'M BECOMING A BILLIONARE WITH NOT ONLY A GOLDEN HEART BUT WITH A GOLDEN BED!! HEHEHEHHEH

i'm back..travel or not?

after some time leaving my blog unattended, i'm back on track.. :-) for the past 3 weeks, not much has occured..apart of making a hole to my own pocket blaming on the shopping spree,spending almost half of the day glued to my lappie watching tv series until my eyes ache, and helping my friend out in picking her new spring clothes,my winter holiday was just like the other days of my life. i'm suprised with myself when i dont feel bored staying in moscow during this winter eventhough there are only a few of us who decided not to go anywhere together with me. in fact, i'm planning to save more for the next 2 years. so, maybe i will again just stay at home and live my own life while people travel. at some time i thought. why do people travel? i travel because i want to be there. not really to look at the places. but just to be there. to have my pasport chopped by numerous countries' stamp. just that. and this time i felt soooo wrong. i mean,why should i go there only for the sake of the pasport? is it all worth a while? undeniably in addition to that,i travel because when people asked me about that country, i can proudly brag about it.."ooohh..i've been there" spending so much of ur money just to brag? yeahh..i know its ridiculous!! thats why, after this summer trip that i've promised and halfly planned with my friends, i feel like i need to be sensible. i need to figure out whats d real purpose of me traveling. if other people has their own reasons, so should i...maybe i should think of my future more than of myself. better be safe than sorry.. :-)